Sunday, April 22, 2007

Apolo'guise'

What is the point of picking up a fight if you've got to apologize later... Fights can be fought out in two ways. One with a swift stroke and another with a long drawn out extended series of bouts. A good fight is one no doubt which can settle scores really quickly and effectively and once and for all... Sock the guy’s face and you’re done. Never have to see the person again. This is possible only if the other is a stranger or a passing acquaintance, who doesn’t really matter much in your life. This is the best fight ever. But imagine having one of these fights with someone you know well, someone you’ll have to see for an extended period of time in your life, anything between six months to a lifetime. Then either the two of you are intelligent enough to never talk to each other ever again. Take care that the two of you never cross paths again. At least there’d be some peace in your life. The fight would be an act complete in itself.
But in case you keep running into him either out your own volition or out of his will ’cos he wants to niggle you, then what happens to your life? Ruinous hell where everyday you fight a bit, win a bit, lose a bit, increase blood pressure, remain under constant stress…in short you hardly have much of a life. In this case humans walk into the realm of the second form of battles. The wars of attrition that drag on for long with no rhyme or reason and which have no clear conclusions... This is harmful in the long run, but most human antagonism gets manifest only in this nature. Look at Palestine-Israel; or the two Koreas…or at your squabbling parents... Perhaps both sides want to increment the misery in their lives as well with the other person's lives. Well, who am I to judge that? To each his own…
As for me, I prefer the first split-second decisive act. One slap, one punch, one whack and it’s all over. I guess I’ve had the advantage of that until now because of my age. Growing up, not too many people remain important, a feeling that increases as and when one shifts schools, colleges or universities. Most of your friends will shift out to jobs and other diverse fields. So how does it matter if you fight with them?
Another thing entirely; if you’re in a job and the i@!$#s around you are either your colleagues or your trainers. If you dislike anyone, just ignore and wash them from your head… A better thing to do in the long run because you’ll need some help from them later in life. And by any chance if you’ve opened your mouth and said something which led to a heated exchange, you’re done for. Be prepared for the protracted time consuming sequence to follow. Sharpen your knives. Keep your friends close, but your enemies closer.

9 comments:

greenink said...

like that... keep ur enemies closer. well said!

xanjukta said...

well..greenink, Sun Tzu said that before me!!! why can't i access your blog??

Shaji.k said...

hi, a very interesting write up. like u, i am for the split,decisive act but then one has to take care of long-term interests and needs and supress the itch.

Omair said...

You know that lovely quote, "I like people with backbone, especially the crunchy noise they make when you crush them"?

Sometimes fights are an utter joy.

abhay k said...

Hi,
very insightful but lets not forget about evolution and instincts or knee-jerk reactions. These thoughts come after the automatic outpour when all cools down...but instincts are instincts...perhaps humans will evolve...perhaps not...

jerry said...

It's funny Rakhi Sawant after Mika episode on TV was screaming: aplojise!

Anonymous said...

the following blog post is also about doing something wrong and conveniently apologizing later:-

http://blog.scribestudio.com/articles/2006/10/05/the-pat-obrien-school-of-damage-control

pretty well written. this blog post i mean, not yours

xanjukta said...

@anonymous...
gee thanks.. go write a comment on that blog.. asswipe!!

Neepam Kakati said...

keep your friends close but keep ur enemies closer.....pretty deep.